Questions about tantra massage in Amsterdam
The questions we are asked most, answered plainly: how long we take to arrive, what an hour costs, how payment is settled, and what a booking needs from you.
I keep reading different accounts of what tantra is. What do you mean by it?
A way of working with the hands, not a doctrine. Slow strokes that travel the whole length of the body, a pace set by breathing rather than by a clock, and a session treated as one continuous thing rather than a sequence of parts. That is the whole of what the word carries here. If you have had good massage before and found it brisk, this is the difference.
Is there a belief system attached to this, or anything I am expected to subscribe to?
No. Nothing is taught, nothing is explained to you, and you are not asked to accept anything in order to receive the session. The Sanskrit words are kept because they name the work accurately and nothing else has replaced them. What arrives at your door is a trained therapist with warm oil and fresh towels, and an hour and a half of quiet.
Lingam and yoni, what do those words mean, and what is a massage called that?
They are the Sanskrit names tantra uses for the male and the female body. A massage by either name is the tantra session itself, patient, oiled, deliberate full-body work, booked by a man or by a woman. Both open slowly once the breath has changed, and both close gradually.
You also list a sensual massage. How is that not the same thing?
The sensual hour is a full-body oil massage at a slower tempo than a spa would use, straightforward and complete in itself. The tantra work is longer by necessity and differently paced: nothing is driven toward an end point, the pauses are part of the work rather than gaps in it, and the pace holds level from the first minute to the last. Many people book the sensual hour first and come to this afterwards.
Why do you say ninety minutes when an hour is the standard everywhere else?
Because the settling alone takes twenty, and an hour spends most of itself getting somewhere the technique only then begins. Ninety minutes is the shortest length that does the technique any justice. Two hours, or three, give the middle room to stretch. The eight-hour overnight exists for people who would rather nothing ended on a clock at all.
This would be my first time with anything like this. Does that matter?
It does not. A first session is a common booking and the therapist works no differently for one. Forty-five women are on the roster, each with her own page, and if you would rather one with a particular manner, say so when you write and the reply will name two or three. There is nothing to prepare and nothing to read beforehand.
Is anything expected of me while it is happening?
You lie down and you are worked on. That is the whole of your part in it. We do not publish an account of the hour; what is arranged beforehand is the technique, the length, the time and the address, and the rest belongs to the room and to the two people in it, spoken about there, unhurriedly, at the start.
Will I be asked to breathe in a particular way, or do anything like that?
No instruction is given. The breath lengthens on its own once the opening has gone on long enough, and your therapist watches for that rather than asking for it, it is how she judges when to move on. Nothing is counted, nothing is guided, and you are not corrected. If you fall asleep in the first half hour, that is a reasonable outcome.
I would rather not speak to anyone on the telephone to arrange this. Is that possible?
It is the only way we work. Message us through the button on this page, by WhatsApp or by Telegram, with the hotel or district, the technique, the length and the hour you want. The reply names a therapist who is free and an arrival window. There is no studio and no address to attend; she comes to you, usually forty to sixty minutes after the hour is agreed anywhere in the centre, and someone on the roster is free at most hours of most days. Schiphol airport hotels are possible by arrangement, ask when you enquire.
I am in a hotel room and have no euros on me. What happens at the end?
Nothing happens at the end. The balance is settled on arrival, before anything begins, so that the close of the session is not interrupted by it. Card, cash and crypto are all accepted; prices are in euro, and cash in another major currency is fine once the amount in that currency has been confirmed to you in writing. Half goes ahead where a deposit applies, a first booking included, and there is no night, weekend or travel surcharge anywhere inside the ring.
How soon after my message can a session actually begin?
Allow roughly three quarters of an hour from the moment you write. The reply time is not fixed, and once you confirm, a therapist usually reaches an address in the centre in forty to sixty. A few more minutes go on warming the room and laying out towels, and then the session itself starts. None of that slows down at night, so a message sent at one in the morning keeps much the same clock as one sent at seven in the evening.
Do you come to apartments and holiday rentals, or only to hotels?
Both, and on exactly the same terms. A rented apartment, a friend's flat or your own home in the city is served as a hotel room is, at the same rate and inside the same arrival window. Apartments tend to need one extra detail in the message, the floor and which bell to ring, since many Amsterdam doorways give nothing away from the street. Beyond that, a warm room and a little clear floor beside the bed are all that is needed.
Could the whole session take place in a language besides English?
Yes, and it is worth asking for if English is not the language you think in. Every therapist speaks English, and across the roster seventeen further languages are covered, with French, Russian and Spanish the most widely spoken and fourteen others shared among smaller numbers of therapists. Name the language in your first message and the reply lists who speaks it before anything else. A session held in your own language tends to settle noticeably sooner.
What changes when the hotel is out at Schiphol?
It is arranged rather than assumed, because the airport lies outside the forty to sixty minute window that applies in the centre. Tell us where the hotel is, the hour and the length you have in mind, and the reply will say plainly what is possible that night and what the arrangement involves, before you have committed to anything. Layovers and early departures make timing matter more than usual, so mention when you need to leave for the terminal.
Can I change my mind about something, or stop, once the session has begun?
At any point, and without giving a reason. A single word is enough to slow things down, move away from somewhere, alter the pressure or bring the session to a close, and the therapist simply does as you ask. Nothing agreed in the message binds you once you are in the room. The same holds in the other direction: she keeps to what was arranged and to what you say on the day, and nothing new is introduced unless it is asked for.
Are the therapists and the clients all twenty-one or over?
Yes, on both counts. Everyone listed on this site is twenty-one or over, and everyone who books or is present during a session must be twenty-one or over too. Your therapist may ask to see photo identification when she arrives, looks at it and hands it back, and keeps nothing from it. If she cannot satisfy herself that everyone in the room is twenty-one or over, she leaves before the session starts, whatever the hour or the length of the booking.
Is tantra massage a medical treatment?
No, and we take care not to present it as one. Nothing is diagnosed, nothing is treated, and no promise is made about what a session will change in your body. What is offered is slow, attentive touch over an unhurried stretch of time, which many people find worth having for its own sake. If you have an injury or anything else that affects how you can lie down or be touched, mention it at the start so that pressure and positions can be adjusted.
We are a couple. How does a session for two people work in practice?
There are two ways to arrange it. The usual one is two therapists, each working with one of you at the same time in the same room, so you can choose different sessions and still have both stop at the same time. The other is a single therapist, charged at double the one-person hour, who works with each of you in turn, which suits a longer booking. Say which you prefer, and describe the room, and the reply will confirm how it will be laid out.
How do I know the woman in the photographs is the one who arrives?
Every photograph on a profile is of the woman whose profile it is, taken with her agreement. The confirmation you receive names the therapist who is coming, and she is the one who knocks. If the person you chose cannot make the hour, you are told as soon as the house knows and offered someone else by name, with a page of her own to look at, or the deposit back, so the decision remains yours.
What if my plans change after I have confirmed?
Send a line in the same thread the moment you know. A later start can usually be found, and moving the time is always better than trimming the session to fit an evening that has run over. If you need to cancel altogether, say so as early as you can, which frees the therapist for somebody else. No call is needed and no reason has to be given; the whole change is made in a message or two, at any hour.
Why is the overnight a fixed price rather than eight hours at the hourly rate?
Because a night is a different kind of booking from a very long massage. With one therapist, eight hours counted one by one would come to noticeably more; the overnight is a single block that begins when you choose and runs through to the morning. It suits people who would rather the evening had no clock in it whatsoever, and it is booked in the same way as everything else, by message, with half placed ahead once the office accepts. With two therapists, a night carries a separate figure for one guest and another for a couple, neither of them under its own eight hours, both in the profiles' rates tables.
What is the right thing to have on when she knocks?
Whatever you would happily answer the door wearing. A hotel robe or ordinary clothes are both entirely usual, and nobody expects to find you waiting on the bed. The first few minutes are spent warming the room and setting out towels, and you undress once that is done, at your own pace, with a towel within reach throughout. If you would rather keep something on for part of the session, say so, and the work adapts without any fuss.
Do you work on public holidays and on the busiest weekends in the city?
Every day of the year, at every hour, and at the ordinary rate. There is no holiday premium and no surcharge on the nights when the city is at its fullest. What changes on those nights is choice rather than price: more people write at once, so the therapist you have in mind is more likely to be taken already. A message a few hours ahead widens the options, although a booking for the same hour is still usually possible.
I have not used the house before and want ninety minutes this evening. Is that paid when she arrives, or is something placed first?
Something goes ahead first. A first booking carries a deposit whatever its length, so half of the ninety-minute fee goes in advance and the other half when she arrives. Once the hour is agreed, the booking conversation gives you in writing the exact sum and how to send it: card is the usual route, and Revolut, Wise or crypto also work. Because the session is for today, you also confirm in the thread that you want it performed at once. Should the evening fall through before she has left, half of that deposit is kept as fee already earned and the rest comes back to you. From your second booking onward, a same-day hour or two is paid entirely on arrival.
I have fallen ill and cannot go ahead with the overnight. What happens to the half I paid ahead?
Falling ill is a change on your side, so the notice scale decides it. A message more than twenty-four hours before the start means the deposit comes back whole. Cancel inside the final day but before she has set out, and the house keeps half of that deposit as fee already earned and returns the other half. If another client takes the night, all of it is returned, and if you can show the house lost less than it kept, it keeps less. If you would rather have the night once you are well, the one free move to a date within fourteen days is open while the start is still more than a day away.
My plans have shifted by a day. Can the booking move to the new date, and does the deposit move with it?
Yes, once and at no cost. Write in the booking conversation more than twenty-four hours before the session is due, pick a date within fourteen days of the original, and the whole deposit moves with the booking. A second move, or one asked for inside the final twenty-four hours, is measured on the notice scale as if you had cancelled at that moment. Any part of the deposit the scale does not keep carries over to the new date.
Who decides the shape of a session?
Your therapist decides, and she tells you her limits before she begins. She may decline a booking before it reaches her or after it has, and no reason is required. She may also end a visit at any point she chooses. Where a limit she has set is pressed after she has reached you, the visit ends, the fee for the time reserved is still due, because that time was kept free for you and she had already travelled to it, and nothing is charged beyond it, in the same words the terms use.
Will she want to see identification?
She may ask, on arrival. Twenty-one or over is the rule for the person who books and for everyone present. She looks at the photo document and hands it straight back; she does not copy it, scan it or photograph it, and she writes nothing from it down. If she cannot satisfy herself that everyone in the room is twenty-one or over, she leaves before the session has begun, which the age statement also covers.